Perspectives on survivor speech

From my mom’s perspective, first, she wouldn’t be happy about me talking about it [sexual violence] to other people. You know, that’s our culture. You are not supposed to discuss this with other people, in…

Participant 1: I wanted to know how many cases have been reported through this channel, and how did they go? Participant 2: Yeah! I think I am quite curious to know too. […] I know…

Personally, I feel like too many displays is not good because they just give out negative vibrations like, “this is what happened to me.” That’s why having some testimonials where they just say their emotions,…

The funny thing is, when I think about what I’ve said and what I’ve heard, when you have been sexually assualted, the last people you tell is your family members. Why? because you are feeling…

Participant 2: “Counselling” is such a formal word. Like, white people are used to counselling- we are not. We don’t have counsellors. So the way we talk about it is when we are at school,…

Participant 1: Okay, so I think from our region, what I would say is that the patriarchal system in West Africa doesn’t allow for things like that [sharing your story]. One, you feel like you…

You are absolutely right, people should be able to say what happened to them without the fear of what’s going to happen to them. Let’s say for instance, that [unclear] – the students should not…

Participant 1: This isn’t the whole of Nigeria, but from the area I am from, I think it has been just a non-said, passed-down idea that it’s such a shameful thing that you just don’t…

The tricky thing is that, yes, they [my parents] would respond positively to the policy, but at the same time, they are the kind of people that don’t want much attention drawn to themselves -…

My parents are very old-fashioned. If something like this was to happen to anyone in my family, they would want to make sure it wasn’t talked about. So, let’s say you choose to report; you…